Why a blog?

I give up, easily.
Anything. Everything.
Because of a lack of confidence.

People won't like me, laugh at me, think I'm stupid.
That is why my entire life I hid away, in dark clothes.
Black, dark blue or grey.
Anything to make me invisible.

I never used make-up in high school because I didn't know how.
My hair was always the same because I had no idea what to do with it (ponytail, tightly pulled back, in case you're curious).

When I was 18 I got married and I wanted a change.
I wanted the real me to come out.
But I still had no clue how.

At 26 I started this blog.
So that I wouldn't give up, wouldn't forget where I was going.

This is my journey, feel free to walk it with me, every step of the way.
All my failures, all my mistakes.
But also my winnings, my happy moments and my bliss.
I'll be honored to have you with me.

Changing the world, one Catfish at a time

FashionPosted by Fashiondisaster Mon, October 07, 2013 11:33:17

When I was little, my dream was to change the world (and to become a vet), sadly none of these two dreams came true.

Altough I believe that we all change the world in our own way, by doing little things like following our heart and doing what’s right I had imagened doing something bigger when I was a kid.

Luckely every now and then I find something that makes me smile, warms my heart and makes me say: “this changes the world”.

President Obama winning the election was one of those things :)

But I learned that it doens’t always have to be something that big, to make a change.

Something tiny can change the way you think or the way you see things.

A few weeks ago I saw my first episode of Catfish.

In America it’s already a big hit but I was born in Belgium so I’m always hopping behind on things :)

In case you haven’t seen it, it’s about people starting romantic relations online but sometimes the one they’ve been talking to for months, or even years, is holding out on meeting each other.

Nev and Max (the makers of the show) investigate the case and most of the time it turns out that there is a Catfish involved (someone who pretends to be somebody else online).

Now, “what’s world changing about that?”, you might wonder.

People lie, nice way to change the world.

The change is in the way they present the show.

There is always a story behind the lie.

A story that makes you look differently at the lie.

It makes you see the human side of it all.

It makes you see the insecure girl that thinks she isn’t good enough to find a nice guy if she puts her real picture out there.

Most of the time ‘the Catfish’ is a really nice person, a girl or a boy that is sweet, funny or even cute but they can’t see that for themselves because they have been bullied or picked on at school.

They are never ugly or weird, they just have that idea in their head because others told them so.

The show tells their true story, Max and Nev talk to them, and in a way they help them heal.

The “fakers” always delete their fake profile and get a realisation of what they’ve done.

They’ve lost a chance at love, true love, because, believe it or not, most of the time the fakers really love the one they’ve tricked.

And when there is a jerk among them who uses the internet to brush up on his flirting skills, the Catfish crew makes sure to go talk to him again, without the victim there, doing everything they can to make him see that what he did just isn’t fair (to put it lightly).

But the real life changing thing about this show is that it makes you see the human side to everyone.

In a way, we’re all the same.

We all have our insecurities, our flaws and things we don’t like about ourselves.

We bottle it up, don’t dare to talk about it and, secretly, we look for a friend.

Someone who will listen to us, someone who will always be there for us, no matter what.

This show tells us that we can have all of that, if we just show who we are, flaws included.

Because those flaws make us who we are, they are our personality.

So, be proud of yourself, you’re pretty in every single way.

Nobody is better (or worse) then you.

You are unique, one of a kind, and worth to be seen and loved.

Believe me, and you’ll change the world.

Ow, wondering what the fashion part in this blog is?

Just look at Nev and Max’ shoes :)

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